Telling your spouse that you want a divorce is one of the hardest conversations you will ever have.
Before you start the conversation, it is important to prepare yourself. Below are several key things to consider.
Talk to an Attorney First
Before even broaching the subject of divorce with your spouse, you should speak to a South Carolina family lawyer. There are many actions your spouse may take after you officially file. They may even try to hide assets so they are not subject to the property division process. A lawyer will know to take certain preemptive steps so you can avoid the issues these actions will cause. A lawyer can also provide additional information, such as the paperwork, including a financial affidavit, you will need when you file.
Plan to Talk Peacefully
It may seem as though there is never a good time to bring up the subject of divorce with your spouse. Still, there are some times that work better than others.
One of the worst times to bring up divorce with your spouse is when you are in the middle of a heated argument. While you may only be thinking about divorce when arguing with your spouse, now is not the time to suggest it. Doing so will only escalate the situation and make it worse. Also, you may question in the future whether you really meant it, or were just acting out of frustration.
Secondly, it is crucial that you plan what you are going to say in advance. Bringing up the subject of divorce is never something you should do in passing, or before you know what you want to say. You may also want to consider specific factors, such as having the discussion in a public place if your spouse tends to become aggressive.
Remain Firm
You must know that you want a divorce before you talk to your spouse about it. If you are unsure, even in the smallest way, wait until you are. You need to be able to remain firm in your decision with your spouse. You need to be able to stay firm even if your spouse tries to sway your decision. When you are certain you want a divorce, you can can help ensure your spouse doesn’t have hope of a future that will not happen.
Stick to the Basics
There will be lots of time to go over the details of your divorce, and there may be many. However, during the initial conversation with your spouse is not it. Focus on your relationship, and how each of you will move forward after the divorce is final. Only start talking about the nitty-gritty details once you have a lawyer by your side.
Need To Tell Your Spouse You Need Divorce? Contact Us Today for Help
If you are thinking about divorce, our South Carolina family lawyers at The Peck Law Firm can provide the sound legal advice you need. Call us now at 843-631-7117 or contact us online to schedule a consultation with one of our skilled attorneys and to learn more about how we can help.